Parents Forum Blog

Newtown CT shootings

As I wrote to National Parenting Education Network (npen.org) colleagues and friends, these events are so painful and fresh that there is little to do but shudder and cry. You can hear Dec.14 The Daily Wrap bit.ly/RurM6T with host Michael Castner: it includes a...

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Parents with Disabilities

On NPR's Talk of the Nation this afternoon, host Neal Conan discussed the challenges faced by parents who have disabilities No surprise that they, like parents who are not disabled, have difficulty finding support as parents. Some of the stories, from guests on the...

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The Learning Brain, all about working memory

The Learning Brain is a fascinating and readable book, important for parents, educators and parenting educators, by Torkel Klingberg, just out. The author's blog: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-learning-brain I met and spoke with Klingberg at a conference in...

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A Note to Educators

With thanks to John D'Auria of Teachers21 who co-wrote this column, please see: http://b.globe.com/SChKtO A Note To Educators As School Begins: Parents and teachers are natural allies with common interests in promoting healthy development in children and young people....

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Waving the flag for parenting education

Yes, my day in New York, Thursday, September 27, for a meeting of the NGO Family Committee at the U.N. was exciting! Since the General Assembly was in session, there were lots of delegates out and about – many recognizable by country flag pins on their lapels - and...

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Ask a parenting educator

Today's 'Ask Amy' column by Amy Dickinson 'father is re-creating cycle of bad parenting' does not mention parenting education. Please! When are we as a society going to realize that parents' concerns are * not * signs of mental illness? I wrote a short note to AskAmy...

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Tell your parenting education story

In celebration of August 1st Respect for Parents Day, we are launching a month-long poll of parents and parenting educators asking: What has been the biggest positive influence on your own parenting? All are welcome to respond, those with direct experience with...

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Spanking, the discussion continues

Hello ...and a very Happy Fathers Day to all the Fathers in our families and communities... I had to write about this. The Sunday Globe Magazine June 17, 2012 cover story begins, "Studies show that most parents don’t want to hit their kids - and that some 90 percent...

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International Day of Families is today!

May 15 is here again and it is very heartening to remember that there are lots of good people around the world working to support families. I just spent an hour by telephone with National Parenting Education Network (NPEN - US) council members in a very rich...

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Can you de-brat your kids?

You may have seen TIME Magazine's article declaring American kids to be brats. You probably saw - or heard about - the viral video of an American dad shooting his daughter's laptop in response to her Facebook rant about her parents and chores. Do we have a problem? I...

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No hitting means no spanking

A study published in the Canadian Medical Journal, reported today (February 8, 2012) in the Boston Globe http://b.globe.com/zy0cDb includes these cautionary comments: “Spanking is a traumatic experience that can cause small losses in the brain’s gray matter,”...

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Parents Forum helped us to be a better family

Now this is nice . . . a letter saying Parents Forum works! My wife Susan and I have had the pleasure of knowing Eve Sullivan since the summer of 1998. My wife had met Eve and was introduced to Parents Forum.  Being young parents with children ages 5 and 3 at the time...

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‘Parenting Resources Matter’ in The Lancet

This is so exciting, stepping out on the world stage. Doctors and other health care professionals around the globe read The Lancet! Take a look: Visit http://www.thelancet.com and search for 'parenting resources' There you will see the letter I wrote with four...

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UN panel discussion Nov.18 on positive parenting

And this! As a representative of the International Federation for Parenting Education, I attended a panel discussion on “Stop violence against children through positive parenting” on the occasion of the Universal Children’s Day, co-organized by the Permanent Mission...

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Secondhand TV, as dangerous as secondhand smoke?

We need some rules for ourselves, too, as parents, and it seems that one should be: 'Turn off the TV when children are in the room with you'.  What children need from us, what anyone wants, really, more than anything, is good attention, not divided attention.   Of...

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More singing, less soda

First, more singing! Today’s Boston Globe ‘Music class lifts teen from life of silence’ story October 26, 2011 http://b.globe.com/taZvSJ (the link requires a subscription to read the whole article) describes the transformation of a young man into a musical ‘superstar’...

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Harvard EdCast ‘parenting pedagogy’

Happy news! Matthew Martin at the Harvard Graduate School of Education (HGSE) let me know that an interview he did with me in August, launched today: http://hvrd.me/r7R6vt . It is currently on the main page of the HGSE website, available through the Harvard iTunes U...

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Permission to speak

This morning I had a very interesting conversation with one of my sons and he granted me the above mentioned ‘permission to speak’ about our discussion. We spoke about a perception we share that  men - fathers - do not feel they have permission to speak about their...

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Good news about play

The Boston Globe op ed piece today 9-30-11 is 'serious need for free play' by Carlo Rotella, director of American studies at Boston College, and I love it! The gist: "…free play is essential to a child’s development - not only to mental health, but to the acquisition...

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Lost in Transition, no, not the movie

The Economist’s review of Christian Smith’s book Lost in Transition: The Dark Side of Emerging Adulthood prompts this post. The reviewer writes that the book deserves consideration from parents, I guess so! Read on ... The review ends with these words: “In the guise,...

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August 1st, Respect for Parents Day

Respect for Parents Day is here and, just our luck, the eagerly anticipated resolution of the debt ceiling crisis gets top billing. For the record, here is Marilyn Dalrymple's proclamation, which I will ask her to rename International Respect for Parents Day: --...

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A good life for all our children

This from the Exchange Every Day newsnote . . . which I always find inspiring. . . a quote from Lilian Katz, the speaker at their recent conference: "The good life for our own children only be secured if it is also secured for all other people's children." But we need...

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Help for parents of disabled children

The following message from 'across the pond' just popped up in my inbox and I post it here, as I am happy to help spread the word of this effort. As parents of a disabled four-year-old we found many sources of help through hearsay and purely by chance. We have...

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WICC ‘Talk of the Town’ May 16, 2011

Jim Buchanan, host of 'Talk of the Town' on WICC in Bridgeport CT, will interview me this coming Monday just after 4pm. Looks as if you can listen live at the station website: www.wicc600.com . His question is how parents can discuss, with their kids, the global...

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Audiobook and eBook of our handbook coming soon!

In honor of International Day of Families (IDF) May 15th, we are happy to announce upcoming release of Where the Heart Listens: a handbook for parents and their allies (third edition) in audio and ebook formats. You can read sample chapters here under 'Where the Heart...

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Tiger Mother, note added

Interesting! Madame Liu Yandong, State Councilor of the People’s Republic of China and the highest-ranking woman in the Chinese government, paid a visit to MIT, where I work, Wednesday, April 13 (2011). I attended her talk, given as part of the China Forum, and was...

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Babies learn through exploration

This is apparently breaking news, but parents know it, for heaven's sake. Now we can quote scientific research showing that 'teaching too much can stifle exploration.'  A Boston Globe article 3-28-2011 by Carolyn Y. Johnson... http://j.mp/gKSSvK tells...

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Where the Heart Listens

The most amazing happy news . . .  Where the Heart Listens: a handbook for parents and their allies in a global society - the Parents Forum handbook - has won the Parent Tested Parent Approved PTPA Seal of Approval! Look here: http://www.ptpamedia.com/homepage and see...

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